“Worry less about how many people you are connected to and worry a whole lot more about who you are connected to, who they are and what you are doing to value and honor them.” – Mitch Joel
Impact is about relationship, and relationship is about value.
When we add value to others, we boost their confidence, encourage their passions, and drive them to success.
Value can be given in the mundane moments of life – something as simple as a smile or an opened door. However, value is also recognizing someone’s passion, supporting their mission, and driving their purpose.
Our words, actions, and attitudes have an impact – either adding value or leaving someone the same as when we found them. Choosing impact and accepting the responsibility to add value has the power to change everything.
Here are five ways you can begin to add value to others around you:
1. Ask deeper questions.
We like to ask one question: “How are you?” And while this not a bad question, it doesn’t scratch the surface of deeply valuing those around us.
It’s a hurried question, thrown around when we aren’t sure what else to ask.
So, what if we went a little deeper? Consider asking what challenges they are facing, what is exciting in their life at the moment, or something that they’ve learned recently.
2. Acknowledge the good.
Genuine compliments and honest appreciation go a long way in building positive relationships. This is especially true for the people in your life you may not like.
Begin acknowledging one good quality every time you have an opportunity, and watch as your relationships grow, thrive, and lead to great impact.
Here’s the key: always be searching for the good. It’s much easier to see someone’s faults. So, fight to see and acknowledge the best about others.
3. Choose vulnerability.
Admitting our faults and choosing imperfection shows those around us that we are simply human. This levels the playing field.
It shows value by indicating that we care more about the other person than we do about saving face. It validates the importance of the relationship in a meaningful way. Admitting weakness also communicates honesty, trust, and boldness.
We cannot admit our faults without truly valuing the person sitting across from us.
4. Slow down.
“…there is a crying need for people who will make the time to listen, for people who will resist the ‘skitterish impatience’ so prevalent in our age and make people more important than progress.” (Dale Carnegie & Associates)
Sadly, we live in a society that chooses to rush, always pushing for the next best time-spender. But what if we slowed down long enough to realize that the best time-spender is the person sitting across from us?
To add value to people, we must slow down long enough to hear their needs and respond appropriately.
5. Take time to value yourself.
This is not in a selfish way, but in a way that allows you to continue valuing others. If your tank is not full, you cannot fill the tank of anyone around you.
Take time every day to refuel with prayer, exercise, practicing gratefulness, or something else entirely.
These five ways to add value to others are demonstrated in the big moments and the day-to-day events. It’s holding a door for the person behind you. It’s making someone smile by cracking a joke in the elevator. It’s looking past the surface to see the hurt hiding underneath.
If we are going to be people of impact, we must first start by adding value to those around us.
How can you value someone today? Determine one action you can take to add value to a friend, family member, or colleague. Then, before you head out the door to make an impact, share with us in the comments below!